Bereavement
If you have recently had a bereavement the doctors and staff at Selston Surgery would like to offer our sincere condolences to you and your family for your loss.
All deaths are required to be scrutinised by the Medical Examiner. The Medical Examiner will discuss with bereaved families of the deceased the cause of death recorded by the doctor. They will also decide whether there is to be coronial involvement or whether the paperwork may be sent to the Registration Service for an appointment to be made to register the death. Due to this additional process, it is recommended that no date for a funeral is booked until the Registration Service have contacted you to book an appointment to register. The 5 day statutory period to register a death does not commence until the paperwork has been received by the Registration Service during working hours (Monday to Friday). The Registration Service will contact you when all necessary paperwork has been received.
Funeral directors
Choose a funeral director who’s a member of one of the following:
These organisations have codes of practice – they must give you a price list when asked.
Some local councils run their own funeral services, for example for non-religious burials. The British Humanist Association can also help with non-religious funerals.
Arranging the funeral yourself
Contact the Cemeteries and Crematorium Department of your local council to arrange a funeral yourself.
Funeral costs
Funeral costs can include:
- funeral director fees
- things the funeral director pays for on your behalf (called ‘disbursements’ or ‘third-party costs’), for example, crematorium or cemetery fees, or a newspaper announcement about the death
- local authority burial or cremation fees
Funeral directors may list all these costs in their quotes.
FOR HELP DEALING WITH GRIEF
ARCH is dedicated to promoting the emotional, psychological and spiritual well-being of clients, the provision of real understanding, counselling and supportive help to women, men and families after an abortion.
- At a Loss – ataloss.org
The UK’s signposting website for the bereaved. They can help you find bereavement services and counselling. They also have resources on coronavirus pandemic bereavement.
- Bereaved through Alcohol and Drugs (BEAD) – beadproject.org.uk
Information and support for anyone bereaved through drug or alcohol use.
- Brake, The Road Safety Charity www.brake.org.uk/supportSupport for bereaved and seriously injured victims of road crashes Brake offers emotional support, help and information to anyone who has experienced a death or serious injury in a road crash, their carers and professionals working with them.0808 8000 401Switchboard 01484 559909
- Child Bereavement UK – 0800 028 8840
childbereavementuk.org
Support when a baby or child of any age is dying, or a child is facing bereavement.
- CISWO – The Coal Mining Charity
CISWO | Coal Industry Social Welfare OrganisationImproving the lives of those facing disadvantage due to the impact of the coal mining industry. We’re here to improve the lives of former coal miners and their families. Includes emotional support through loss and bereavement, illness and caring responsibilities, as well as other assistance. 01623 625767 – East Midlands 01709 728115
- The Compassionate Friends – 0345 123 2304
tcf.org.uk
Provides support to bereaved families after the death of a child.
- Dying Matters – https://www.hospiceuk.org/our-campaigns/dying-matters
Coalition of individual and organisational members across England and Wales, aiming to help people talk more openly about dying, death and bereavement, and to make plans for the end of life.
- The Good Grief Trustthegoodgrieftrust.org
Charity run by the bereaved, helping all those suffering grief in the UK. Can help you find reassurance, advice and support. They have a detailed page of coronavirus bereavement advice.
- Miscarriage Support Group, Nottingham
A self-help group that aims to provide a safe environment in which men and women experiencing the grief of losing a pregnancy, can come together to share their experiences and provide each other with mutual support. Also has a site of Facebook. Works closely with and is being supported by the National Miscarriage Association. A religious neutral group.
Also run a second support group for women currently pregnant following a miscarriage.
Contact Name: Kymm
Telephone: 07870 771 326 (Daytime and evenings)
01949 200 1326 Miscarriage Association Helpline (Mon-Fri 9am- 4pm)E-mail: kymmiestroud@hotmail.com
- National Association of Widows
The National Association of Widows is a charity offering support and friendship to widows and widowers and women and men who have lost their partners through bereavement; largely through a system of self-help branches. There is currently a branch in Mansfield and other groups in the pipeline – contact head office for details.
Telephone: 0845 838 2261/024 7663 4848 (answerphone at times)
E-mail: info@nawidows.org.uk
Website: www.nawidows.org.uk
- Rainbows Hospice for Children and Young People
As the East Midlands’ only hospice for children and young people, Rainbows is a place where life-limited children and their families can find care and support.
The incredible team of people help relieve symptoms, improve quality of life, support parents and siblings through their bereavements, and care for children until the end.
Telephone: 01509 638000
E-mail: administration@rainbows.co.uk
Website: www.rainbows.co.uk
- Samaritans116 123 (freephone)
jo@samaritans.org
Freepost SAMARITANS LETTERS
samaritans.org
Samaritans are open 24/7 for anyone who needs to talk. You can visit some Samaritans branches in person. Samaritans also have a Welsh Language Line on 0808 164 0123 (7pm–11pm every day).
- Sands0808 164 3332
sands.org.ukSands is the leading stillbirth and neonatal death charity in the UKSands provides bereavement support services both nationally through its Freephone helpline, mobile app, online community and resources, and locally through a UK-wide network of around 100 regional support groups.The Sands National Helpline provides a safe, confidential place for anyone who has been affected by the death of a baby. Whether your baby died long ago or recently, we are here for you.
- Snowflake Grief and Bereavement Care
Bereavement support service, offering group and one to one sessions, help and guidance, whilst working through the grieving process, from a fully trained and qualified facilitator.
The Grief Support Programme – The Grief Support Programme is a fully guided and structured eight week course. This is for two hours per week, either in the early evening or during the day. It is designed to help and support you to come to terms with your loss, in a very warm, welcoming, empathic and supportive manner.
Contact Name: Anne-Marie Lawrence-Smith
Contact Position: Grief Support Facilitator
Telephone: 07523 210 131
E-mail: snowflakegbc@sky.com
Website: www.snowflake-griefandbereavementcare.co.uk
- Sudden0800 2600 400
sudden.org
Support for people bereaved by sudden death.
- Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS)uk-sobs.org.uk
Emotional and practical support and local groups for anyone bereaved or affected by suicide.
- War Widows Association of Great Britain
The War Widows’ Association is essentially a pressure group and exists to campaign and improve the conditions of War Widows and their dependants in Great Britain.
Its work encompasses those who have suffered bereavement as a result of World War II and all conflicts since then including Iraq and Afghanistan. The WWA also represents those who have suffered the loss of their partner and in peacetime, when the death was attributable to their service life.
Telephone: 0845 2412 189
E-mail: info@warwidows.org.uk
Website: www.warwidows.org.uk
- Widowed and Young (WAY)widowedandyoung.org.uk
Offers a peer-to-peer support network to anyone who was aged 50 or under when their partner died.
If you would like any more information, please feel free to contact the surgery for advice.
